You're Not a Special Unicorn: Stop Being a Selfish Prick

Wake Up to the Realization

You’re not a special unicorn. There’s no magical aura around you just because you think you're the only one struggling. Guess what? People around you are going through the same shit—whether it’s work, relationships, or personal struggles. You’re not the only one carrying that weight.

I get it. I used to think I was different, too. Thought I had my shit together—hell, I thought I was clear-headed and doing the right thing. But whoa, was I wrong. I was a selfish prick, and I didn’t even realize it. So here’s the hard truth: if you’re reading this and feel like you’re thinking clearly, maybe it’s time to step back and rethink things. A lot of us, myself included, don’t realize we’re running on autopilot, doing things that aren’t helping anyone—not even ourselves.

The Selfish Prick Syndrome: I Was That Guy

It’s easy to get caught up in our own little bubble. You know the drill: wake up, hit the grind, survive, rinse and repeat. But somewhere along the way, I got too focused on me. It’s like I was walking around with a blindfold on, oblivious to everyone else’s needs. All I could see was my own pain, my own frustrations, and that’s all I focused on.

Here’s the thing: you’re probably doing the same thing. I was doing the same thing. Thinking only about my own survival, not about how my actions affected those around me. When you’re in that mindset, it’s hard to see how you’re hurting others, especially those who love you, and those who are just as messed up as you, trying to figure life out.

Fun Fact: Studies show that when you focus too much on yourself, it can lead to isolation and even deeper mental health issues. But here's the kicker: when you start thinking about others, filling their needs, things start to shift. People notice. And trust me, your own problems feel lighter when you’re not carrying them all alone.

Change From the Inside: It’s All About Perspective

The first step is realizing that you’re not as special as you think. Yeah, you’re unique in your own way, but we’re all human, and we all fuck up. If you really want to change your life, you’ve got to start working on yourself from the inside. Stop pretending like everything is fine and that you’re above the chaos. You’re not. You’re just like the rest of us.

When you start thinking about others and their needs, things shift. It's not about you anymore. It’s about what you can give to the world, even in small doses. That doesn’t mean you have to become a saint, but it does mean you have to start showing up in a way that serves others, not just your own selfish desires.

The Reality Check: Think About Others

Here’s where the real magic happens. Stop focusing on how you look or how much you’re struggling, and start thinking about how you can help someone else. Whether it’s your partner, your friend, or even a stranger on the street—look at the world with an eye toward fulfilling other people’s needs.

Internal Step: Start today. Try to think of one thing you can do to improve someone else’s day. Small gestures. Letting someone go ahead of you in line. Offering a compliment. Listening when they need to talk. It doesn’t need to be a grand gesture to make an impact.

External Step: Get outside your own head and start talking to people. Real talk, not the "I’m fine, how are you?" surface-level shit. Ask people what they need. Listen to their struggles. Watch how things change around you when you start putting others first, even if it's just for a moment.

Conclusion: It’s Not About You, It’s About How You Move On

At the end of the day, it’s not about you. It never was. We’re all part of the same chaotic human experience, and the sooner you realize that, the sooner you can begin to do better. We can’t change the past, but we can shift our behavior going forward. The path to becoming a better human starts with thinking about others and filling their needs. You’ll be surprised at how much lighter your own shit feels when you start putting out good into the world.

Small Steps of Change: If you’re still stuck in your own head, try focusing on someone else for just five minutes today. A text, a conversation, or even just a thought. I promise, it works. And as for you, the selfish prick in all of us? You can start changing now. I’m rooting for you—one step at a time.